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A Cambodian-American groom and bride are holding hands in wedding hall in restaurant in Phnom Penh. Many questions were raised that why Khmer men love seeking Khmer girls in Cambodia? By the way, some people held fake wedding ceremony in the way to live abroad. Some complained that it is hard to live abroad because they have to work hard, if they do not, they will be hard to survive. I don’t know whether all points of views are true or not. That is what i saw and heard from people.
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in my opinion i think that cambodian-american grooms,especially the traditional ones, still holds on to the belief that the brides from the motherland makes better wives because they are docile and submissive.i have four cambodian- american uncles that went to cambodia and married for love.i also think that independent cambodian american women like myself intimidates these men.borned in cambodia but raised as an american our standards are higher than the average girls.we have high self esteem,good education and independence.i would not settle for less,for what?the sake of family?culture?no thank you.as a westerner,peronal happiness is key.
all kinds of reasons.
some really are looking for love.
nothing against khmer women overseas, obviously, for whatever reason, they are not connecting with khmer guys.
both guys and gals are at fault, not only one.
many found happiness with their marriage. who are we to judge?
i know of two cambodian brides who complained that life in the U.S is not all peaches ‘n’cream. the one that lives in lowell,massachusetts works in a hair salon.the other one is a one is a stay at home mom living in providence,rhode island. both did not know english nor have family here.the only one person they have is their husband-that there, is a scary situation in itself.
there aren’t too many wealthy cambodians in america,a lot of people have mortgages and loans.i have been called a workaholic,but i like my job.i actually went to school to be a nurse.but that is beside the point,my point is when cambodians see foreigners visiting cambodia they think we are wealthy because we are on vacation and have no limit to our spendings.the truth is we work just as hard,maybe even harder. as a visitor to cambodia i think life there is so much more at a leisure pace.i don’t think they have it any easier,but they were in no rush to be at any particular place at any particular time.
Cambodia American girls are too much western style, too much freedom. Cambodia girls are still traditoinal most, but depend when she got in the US.Hard to make judgment, some were ok some were not. Some of the girls start became wild when she got in the US.,she forgot all kind Cambodia traditional that she used to had.
Statistically,cambodia has the worst rights when it comes to women’s rights movement-domestic violence,child prostitution to name a few.What is “too much”? Is that because the alpha male has no dominance over the behavior of these females?
Cambodian-American men seeking Khmer girls because they think Khmer girl has 2things; HONEST and UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER that Cambodian-Amercain girls DON’T.
that is so far from the truth.a lot of cambodian-american girls that i know are nothing as to what you have thought. there are soooo many girls in cambodia as young as sixteen who are willing to sell their soul to marry someone as old as fifty so that they could come to the U.S. where is the honesty and understanding in that? that to me is nothing more than gold diggin.
If Cambodian-American girls are good, how come more and more Cambodian-men are seeking Khmer girls?. In my openion, because Cambodian-american girls : ( Neak krar Min Hean Neak Mean Min York ).
I do agree with you Sophat! something must be wrong for Cambodian-American girls, i feel sorry for them and still have a hope, they will change their behavior.
this is the kind of stupidity we cambodian americans know of khmer men.that is why the rate of marriage between cambodian american girls to khmer men is 1 out of only 100,compared to the flock of khmer girls who are exiting cambodia to marry cambodian-american men. maybe khmer men from both sides of the world are intimidated by intelligent and strong american women.
All I hear is Khmer girls abroad criticizing khmer girls in Cambodia as gold diggin, don’t know english, and have no skills. that is so farther from the truth. girls in cambodia is more educated and intelligent than most college khmer girls in the US. Khmer girls in the US are much more materialistic and gold diggers. khmer girls in US, if they are a bit pretty, they think that khmer guys not good enough for them, and they only want a white guy. they are so brain washed by hollywood. only after they’ve been used and abused, then they came back to khmer guys.
how do you compare education levels in cambodia to U.S colleges when anything learned or earned in cambodia is not only unaccepted, it is also not recognize.i speak of the khmer girls based on my experience as to what i saw when i went to cambodia.if my knowledge offenses you, then oh well…
It’s not rocket science to figure out why guys go back to Cambodia to marry. The FOBby (Fresh Off the Boat) guys are looking for a traditional Khmer girl to cook and clean and be obedient, while the older uglier guys are looking for a hot wife to marry. To be honest, most the women are so desperate to leave the country they are willing to marry anyone. I’ve seen the most beautiful young Khmer girls with oldest ugliest guys with one tooth and no hair, and the first thing that comes to mind is, “he must have gone back to Cambodia to get her.” Khmer girls in American are independent and educated and don’t need to depend on men to support them. They are not looking to marry for money, they are looking for love.
Simple equations:
Hot Khmer girl + Old Cambodian-American guy = Green Card
And by the way I have a Cambodian-American wife and believe me, she is neither obedient nor submissive (extremely hot thought).
Chris, you are obviously a smart man.
DJ,your assumption towards Cambodian-American girls has lead me to a firm belief that you are idiotic and ignorant. How are we materialistic when we are the ones that go to work to earn our money? And if we decide to splurge on purses or shoes, that is our prerogative becaus we earned it.
Victoria, there you go again. Am I right or Am I right about srey khmer overseas? Vicky, don’t even try. head to head on a scholarstic test, you and a khmer student from Cambodia, even a high school student, will kick your ass, score wise. Please, the community college most srey in americ attend (and I said most, not all), is not worth the paper the diploma printed on and the free money the gov’t give them said it all. If the cambo students got half, no 1/4, of khmer americ got, i wouldn’t be arguing for them. Why you look down on them so much, victoria? Is it because khmer guys didn’t bother looking at you? your assumptions and generalizations astound me. how ignorant and mean you are.
Chris,
you want a sex slave, plenty in china, russia too, blonds with perfect 10. of course the girls are poor and because of that they will do anything to get out of it. they don’t have what you and victoria have, ok? same thing in cambodia.
sure, guys with the attitudes you described are everywhere. the fact is not all khmer guys go to cambo for marriage are like that. and if anyone wants a sex slave, cambodia have it. also if anyone wants a good wife, good girls that will make good wives are a plenty in Cambodia too.
Only an ignorant would generalize.
srey americ,
are you saying that only srey khmers in americ work? you are assuming too much, dear. just in case you didn’t know, everybody in americ work, even few days old FOB. and I ain’t referring to what you are thing. i’m not contesting your perogatives to splurge. i know you gotta look good for the white boys.
Victoria,
are you sure khmer men are intimidated by strong srey khmer in america?
you are so far from the truth. i’m a guy and i can tell you. khmer guys are not intimidated, they just don’t want to waste their time or money on an ignorant, materialistic, shallow, ditsy, white washed, short little khmao bimbo. and that’s the truth.
you and srey americ should look at yourselves in the mirror more often.
dj you are an ass. how am i looking down on these girls? what i’ve known came from conversations from the girls themselves i’ve had when i was down in cambodia two months ago. pleeze,men like you are a dime a dozen. f.y.i. i am pretty damn hot, you jerk.
DJ… why do you have the need to convinced me of how wrong i am?
you should check yourself sometimes. you have major issues accepting the truth.
look at the rate of pragnency, for Khmer girls 1 out of 1000 got pregnant, look at American khmer girls 8 out of 10 got pregnant without a father. Can anyone tell me what went wrong? even some of the girls try to hide behind American name, i still see your face from Phnom Penh very clearly, you are Khmer face SOT SATH. Sorry for my broken english.
what’s up with all the hatred? Are Khmer-American girls that horrible? Is it b/c maybe you once tried to get with a Khmer-American girl, but they refuse to be with you? I am not taking sides. Everybody I suppose have their own desire and tastes in women. Regardless, if Khmer-American girl are so bad, then why does all the Khmer girl who came to America wants to be American? If there is so much pride in Khmer, why not stay in Cambodia and be a Khmer girl..”honest, obedient, and submission” I believe that whether you are Khmer-American or Khmer, you are who you are. You are what you want to be. If you are a wild girl, you are wild. Let me asks though: Is being wild that terrible? I believe not, there are certain things in life that be classify you as being wild in one person’s eye but not the other. Why does it bother you Khmer guys that a Cambodian girl choose to be with a white, black, Korean,but not you? Life sometimes is not all about who you are with, it’s about what you want and what makes you happy. Needless to say, Khmer girl are also the same as Khmer-American girl. Some Khmer girls will come and be with a 40 something white guy just so that they can be like Khmer-American girl who lives here. What would you say about that? Another point: Why are young Khmer girls trying to get scholarships to come to study aboard here in US if the education system in Cambodia is so good? Why do they come here and transform themselves to be as white as they could be. My point is that Khmer-American girls aren’t always as bad as we look. We maybe wild in the eyes of the Khmer community, but I can assure you that the ones who are pregnant (as so you speak Sahat statistics) are the one who came from Khmer thinking that the tradition of Westerners are to slept around with as many guys as possible. Please go back and do some more studying on issues related to pregnant rates. I am not a bright person, but I can guaranteed that my statistics is far from what you think. Dont’ say things without checking out data. It is not a good way to pass on the information. Maybe 8 out of 10 uneducated Khmer-American. I will tell you that 10/10 educated Khmer-Americans girls can support themselves without their parents if they choose to. In fact, Khmer men who have your old style of thinking can only wish to have one of Khmer-American girls who can support you and your mother. Rethink about your thoughts before you type it up to have the world see your horrifying thoughts.
You might one of those category too, say long as you want because of your too much freedom, after that, tell me how many kids withou father does American khmer girls has? Idon’t think you going to awnser either.Anyway, thanks for your long explanation but lack of true, only KMENG KVEAL KO that believe you.
No I never consider myself as an Khmer-American girl, b/c I am not in my heart. I do what I can. Khmer-American girls who came from Cambodia maybe? I love Khmer girls but they need to follow traditions. They can not be like Westerner. I am sorry to say that I am Khmer-American but I do not hold those values that Khmer girls in Cambodia nowadays does. Khmer-American have kids without fathers? Ummmm How many do you know that are like that? I am sure they are not true Khmer-American. The Khmer-American girls that I know are hardworking, play hard, wild as you want to put it, crazy if you may say are now are working to improve the world that we live in and hoping that one day we can make a good name for the Cambodian Community. The Khmer-American that I know now are economists, doctors, etc with no kids and are proud to be an American-Khmer. What is it? Kissing in front of the Palace. Have you been to Cambodia lately? If you have not, don’t talk. I am proud to say that I come from a very good family and I have morals and values. I respect myself. I have Khmer-American friends who very well have values and morals. We can say that we can represent the Cambodian community and we are proud to say that any place we go, we bring good names to Cambodia. What about Khmer girls in Cambodia? What do they do? Of course it is absolutely wrong to generalize about Khmer girls because I know in my heart that there are some who are surpass anyone here in the US, but those are rare. Look at the dress code now, go to a Cambodian party? Look at them, those low-cut shirts that shows their cleavages when they are not even 20 years old. Now nothing is wrong with showing your cleavages, I do the same but there are occasions where it is ok to do so. But to a Cambodia party with adults and traditions, please cover yourselves a little….so what do you have to say about that? Does cambodian girls really have traditions? They are more so Westerners than most Khmer-American here in the US. Are you from Cambodia? Why are you so hard on Khmer-American girls? What do you have against us? Why do Cambodian people celebrate Valentines’ Day or Christmas if you hate Westerner so much?
sahat,
your statistic greatly demonstrates the fantastic educational system they have in cambodia.you should not have wasted your time,now you sound even more stupid than i initially gave you credit for.
Sahat? Have you been trained to collect statistical data? Please go back to school and get more educated on how to get your data straight. Besides dont’ have such a hated heart for Khmer-American girls. Why are you in so much pain as so to speak? Did a Khmer-American girl break your heart? Do you really hate the fact that Khmer-American girl like myself have the options and freedom to do what we want to do instead of being someone’s sex toy or cook food for those poor man who claim that they work so hard to bringand money home? Does it really bother you that Asian-American girls like myself and victoria have the options and freedom to choose our pathways in life? Not to be mean or anything but does it bother you that someone like myself have the options to do what we want….be a doctor, be a pharmacist, be an economist, does it scare you?I may sound igornant and errant but people like you makes me very upset and mad. You should be proud that Khmer-American girls have their freedom to do what they want and hope that we work on improving the world not feeling mad and think that we have no values and morals. Please rethink before you judge anyone. I dont’ care if you call me names and think that I am not on your level, but there are other Khmer-American girls out there who desires some credits for what they do. No one in the world is bad, people have their own pathways that they choose to take in life.
Wow, how did this get so dirty. Hope I didn’t offend anyone with what I said. I never considered this to be a grudge match between America and Cambodia. I think we can all agree we love Cambodia, GOOD and BAD. Having said that, we all know there are more opportunities in the US. Who can blame anyone for trying to get here. I’m talking strictly from a guys perspective. From my experience the Khmer men that have gone back to marry usually are the ones making a modest living working a blue collar job (like I said only my experience). Most these guys aren’t living it up in the states but, when they go back to Cambodia they are viewed as high rollers. Honestly most Khmer girls would jump at the opportunity to marry someone like that just to come back to America where they have more opportunities. Those same guys in the states couldn’t get near the type of girl they would get from Cambodia (aesthetically speaking). It’s a win-win situation. What’s the problem in admitting that? You have to assimilate to life where ever you are, thats what we are all trying to do. I wake up everyday and I’m proud of what my family went through to make something of themselves in America, and I’m proud of myself for taking advantage of the opportunities they have given me. No disrespect to my sisters in Cambodia, but when you’re American it means you have freedom to chose who you want to be. If you want to educate yourself that all good. If you want to sleep around thats your choice. The thing is over her IT IS ALWAY YOUR CHOICE. Definitely not saying Khmer girls in America are “better” they’re just given the opportunity to make choices for themselves, good or bad.
I’m not against you guys and girls are living in U.S.A either and i’m not traditional hard-liner at all, i had many friends in America too. One thing, i want to protect srey Khmer in Cambodia from some devils oversea only. They try to seat in the basket and lift the basket by themselves by look down Khmer girls just like trash.
Sahat, here is my advice: you should think of all the difference prespectives and every situation is case-by-case. I am not looking down on Khmer Cambodia girl. I want to see more and more of them take the opportunities that are given to them when they come here to the states. I want to see them work hard and stop complaining about life here in the US. Khmer-Cambodia girls who came from Cambodia always tries to take a loop out of working hard and expecting more for they are not willing to put into. There are options and freedom to do anything. I would rather say I am not looking down on them, but given the situation based on case-by-case, it is not easy to get adjusted to a new place but you have to make the most out of what you can do. They can not sit on your butt and expect that the Husband have monies to give to them and buy them a new luxury car and diamonds and also aside from all of that have additional monies to send back to the parents. Of course I might sound mean or to the extreme but they need to learn how to make their own livings and take care of the family before they should expect millions of dollars to be send back home and on top to be rich. This is not money land, it’s opportunities land, you work hard and you will see the outcome and results. In speaking with Khmer-Cambodia girls here who come from Khmer, they hate us Asian-American girls whether it’s jealousy or whatever. They claim that oh it’s b/c we are born or raise here that’s why we are better off and have more opportunities. My friend, let me say something, WE WORK HARD for our freedom. It’s not b/c we were born or raise here. There are thousands of people including Whites, Black who are born here but still have nothing. You know why, it’s b/c they expect everything to be put on their plate just like those newly foriegner girls who come here (it’s a generlization). There are chineses people who are also foriegner but hey they work hard for their education. Some dont even know any English as fluently as those Asian-Americans girls, but they are were better in school or anything they do. You know why? It’s call WORKING HARD and not expecting everything to be given to them. So just b/c we say things out of our mouth that sounds mean and evil, in no mean are we trying to look down on Khmer girls. I would like to see more of them work hard and not complain. This is not GOLD land. Can’t expect to be rich right and dont’ work for it.
You should not blame each other anymore, nobody win or lose. Our neighbor still keep their eye and happy to see your guys fighting each other just like that. Remember the past, when we fight each other we lost the land.
Amen. Good Advice!
Hey Girls and Guys
American Khmer girls or Cambodian Khmer girls are still Khmer. For me, I don’t mind at all. whoever truly love me is the best girls in my heart. The past is the past, life after marriage is defferent. Have a go!
Ofcourse, we can generalize American-Khmer or Khmer-Khmer girls to our own sterotype.
Hey men! stop fight, we are all Khmer right?